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I turned down a promotion — herE's why and what happened 18 months later

by Alia Azlan·May 22, 2026

The promotion was to Regional Manager covering Malaysia and Indonesia. More pay (RM1,500/month), a team of 12, 30—40% travel.

Why I said no:
I had a 6-month-old at home. The travel was non-negotiable for the role and I couldn't honestly commit to it. I also genuinely wasn't sure I wanted to manage 12 people across two countries.

How I said no:
Honestly. "I'm grateful for this. I don't think I can commit to the travel component at this stage of my family situation. Is there a path that keeps me contributing at a senior level without the international scope?"

What happened:
They created a Senior Lead role — similar pay increase, no travel, smaller team scope.

18 months later, I'm better for having been clear about my limits. Saying no to the wrong opportunity isn't a career-limiting move if you say yes to something that works for both sides.

#promotion#work-life-balancE#family#decision#no
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Comments (6)

Catherine Yeoh21

The employment gap stigma is fading but not gone. Frame it honestly and positively: "I took time to care for a parent" or "I was completing a personal project." Own the narrative.

Saiful Bahri16

Use a gap period for something concrete: a certification, volunteer work, freelance project. It gives you something to point to when asked.

Wai Kin Lau12

I had an 18-month gap for personal reasons. Was honest about it. Every interviewer who hired me later said the honesty was refreshing. Companies value self-awareness.